Telling my spouse I want a divorce

  • 16 Sep 2025
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In this episode of The Candid Divorce Lawyer, Divorce Coach and Relationship & Psychosexual Therapist Elinor Harvey talks to host Kimberley Davies about one of the toughest conversations you can have: telling your partner you want a divorce.

Elinor explains:

  • How you can be both firm and kind when delivering the difficult news
  • What steps can help you emotionally prepare for the conversation
  • Are you ready for a range of reactions – fight, flight, freeze or fawn?
  • How might you feel after the conversation and are you prepared for that
  • What’s the best way to talk to your children about divorce while reassuring them its not their fault

In this episode:

  • 00:00 Introducing Elinor Harvey
  • 3:43 The benefits of independent divorce coaching
  • 6:43 Combining legal and therapeutic services
  • 9:29 How to prepare for the difficult divorce conversation
  • 15:28 Navigating threat responses
  • 21:12 De-escalating anger and processing post-divorce feelings
  • 30:49 Discussing divorce with children

For more information about Elinor and her relationship therapy services, visit Elinor’s:

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